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Introduction
Artificial intelligence is becoming part of everyday life, from search engines and customer service tools to humanoid robots and conversational chatbots. As these systems become more natural to interact with, people may begin responding to them as if they were human.
A polite greeting, a thank-you message, or even a handshake with a robot might seem harmless. However, these interactions raise a bigger question: why do people instinctively treat technology as though it has feelings, intentions, or a personality?
A recent report by TechCrunch explores this question through the work of MIT researchers, including psychologist Sherry Turkle and researcher Pat Pataranutaporn. Their work examines how human-like technology can influence our emotions, trust, and relationships.
The issue is not simply whether people should be friendly to machines. It is whether interacting with systems that imitate human conversation can change how we understand real relationships.
1. Why People Naturally Treat AI Like a Human
People often respond socially to technology even when they know it is not alive. A chatbot that remembers the context of a conversation, responds warmly, or uses reassuring language can feel more personal than an ordinary software tool.
The same instinct can appear when people meet humanoid robots. In the TechCrunch report, the journalist describes greeting a Unitree robot and shaking its hand despite knowing that it was not sentient.
This reaction illustrates a familiar human tendency: we interpret human-like behaviour through social habits developed for interacting with other people.
AI systems can strengthen that response through features such as:
- Natural language conversations
- Friendly or emotionally supportive responses
- Personalised replies based on conversation context
- Human-like voices, faces, and gestures
- Consistent availability whenever someone wants to interact
These features can make technology feel approachable, but they do not prove that a system has feelings or understands an interaction the way a person does.
Research into human-computer interaction, including the work of MIT professor Sherry Turkle, explores how technology influences the way people understand themselves and their relationships. Readers can learn more through MIT News’ report on Sherry Turkle’s research into talking to machines.
2. How Human-Like Chatbots Can Influence Trust
Conversational AI can sound confident, patient, and understanding. Unlike people, chatbots generally do not become visibly irritated, interrupt with their own concerns, or need time away from a conversation.
That consistency can make them attractive to users seeking advice, reassurance, or a place to express difficult feelings. Yet a smooth conversation should not be confused with genuine emotional understanding.
A chatbot generates responses through computational processes. It may recognise emotional language and produce a supportive answer, but that does not establish that it experiences empathy or cares about the user.
This distinction matters because trust can grow through repeated interaction. A user may begin with simple questions and gradually turn to a chatbot for more personal decisions. If the system’s limitations are forgotten, its answers may receive more authority than they deserve.
The concern is not that every conversation with AI is harmful. Instead, users should understand what the technology can and cannot provide, particularly when dealing with sensitive personal issues.
For additional context, the MIT Media Lab’s Cyborg Psychology research group studies how human-AI systems can affect decision-making, wellbeing, learning, and human development.
3. AI Companionship and the Risk of Replacing Human Relationships
AI chatbots can provide a convenient way to practise conversations, organise thoughts, or explore a difficult situation. Some users may also find it easier to begin discussing a concern with a chatbot before talking to another person.
However, relying on AI as a primary source of emotional support can raise concerns when it starts to replace meaningful human contact.
Human relationships involve more than receiving a reassuring response. They require listening, compromise, boundaries, accountability, and the ability to navigate disagreement. A chatbot may imitate parts of a supportive conversation without participating in a mutual relationship in the human sense.
MIT professor Sherry Turkle explores these issues in her book Artificial Intimacy: Who We Become When We Talk to Machines. Her work examines how increasingly human-like chatbots may affect empathy, social skills, and people’s willingness to engage with others. The book’s background and publication details are available from the publisher, Hachette Book Group’s page for Artificial Intimacy.
This does not mean that using AI for conversation or reflection is automatically wrong. The concern grows when users withdraw from real-world relationships, treat simulated affection as equivalent to human care, or allow a chatbot to make important emotional decisions for them.
4. Where AI Can Help, and Where It Needs Boundaries
Not every human-like AI interaction creates the same level of concern. The purpose of the tool matters.
For example, an AI assistant can help someone practise a job interview, improve a presentation, brainstorm ideas, or rehearse a difficult conversation. These are defined tasks where the technology can offer useful support while leaving important decisions to the user.
Problems may arise when a chatbot presents itself as a substitute for a parent, therapist, trusted friend, or other person with responsibilities that AI cannot genuinely fulfil.
A practical way to distinguish appropriate use from risky reliance is to ask three questions:
- What is the purpose? Is the chatbot helping with a specific task, or becoming the user’s main source of emotional support?
- What are its limits? Does the user understand that its responses can be inaccurate, incomplete, or misleading?
- What happens next? Does the interaction help the user engage with real life, or encourage them to avoid people and difficult situations?
The goal should be to use AI as a tool that supports human capabilities, not one that quietly replaces human judgement or relationships.
5. What AI Safety Concerns Tell Us About Vulnerable Users
The risks can become more serious when children, teenagers, or emotionally vulnerable people interact with systems that imitate affection or provide constant validation.
Young users may have less experience distinguishing simulated personality from genuine human intention. If a chatbot presents itself as a trusted companion, users may disclose sensitive information or rely on its responses without questioning them.
The TechCrunch report also discusses the lawsuit brought by the mother of teenager Sewell Setzer III against Character.AI, alleging that interactions with a chatbot contributed to her son’s death. Such allegations illustrate why AI companionship and safety for minors have become subjects of public concern. Legal allegations should not be treated as established findings unless confirmed by the relevant proceedings.
Responsible AI design therefore needs to consider more than whether a chatbot can hold a convincing conversation. It should also consider how the system behaves with vulnerable users, how it communicates its limitations, and how it responds when a conversation involves serious distress.
Parents and caregivers can help by discussing AI openly, encouraging children to verify important information, and making sure online tools do not replace trusted adults or professional support when needed.
For broader research on human-AI interaction and wellbeing, explore the MIT Media Lab’s overview of Cyborg Psychology.
6. How to Use AI Without Losing Human Connection
AI can be useful when its role is clear. People do not need to stop using chatbots or become impolite to technology. Instead, they can build habits that keep its limitations visible.
Here are practical ways to maintain that balance:
- Use AI for defined tasks. Ask it to summarise information, practise an interview, organise ideas, or explain a difficult topic.
- Verify important answers. Check high-stakes information against reliable sources and qualified professionals where appropriate.
- Keep people involved. Discuss significant personal decisions with trusted people rather than relying exclusively on chatbot responses.
- Protect personal information. Avoid sharing sensitive details unless you understand the service’s privacy practices.
- Remember the difference between simulation and feeling. A supportive response may sound caring without demonstrating that the system experiences care.
- Set boundaries for children. Encourage age-appropriate use and open conversations about how AI works.
These habits allow users to benefit from AI while maintaining their own judgement and connections with others.
7. The Future of AI Depends on How People Choose to Use It
AI systems are becoming more capable of producing natural conversation, imitating social behaviour, and assisting with everyday activities. As this technology develops, the distinction between a useful digital assistant and a simulated companion may become harder for some users to recognise.
That makes transparency, responsible design, and digital literacy increasingly important. Developers need to consider the effects their products may have on trust and behaviour, while users need to understand that fluent conversation does not necessarily mean genuine understanding.
The question raised by the TechCrunch report is ultimately broader than whether people should say “please” to a robot. It asks how regular interactions with human-like technology might shape our expectations of other people.
AI can help people learn, create, prepare, and solve problems. But empathy, mutual responsibility, and meaningful relationships remain central to human life. The challenge is to make technology useful without allowing the appearance of human connection to replace the real thing.
